Hmm, of course when I find free time I’m surfing the net to keep in the know about everything from the latest books, music, films, the presidential race to finance and self-empowerment.  I ran across a blog on NPR about some women in the mid-late 30’s choosing to being single parents.  Please check out the article and read some of the comments.  What are your thoughts about it?  Is that the most realistic for women in our society today.  I thought this was mostly something that black women considered as the odds of marriage and kids after 35 seem ’slim’ but it appears that women of all races have considered this regardless of the male ratio within them.

Choosing to be single

Sometimes having a full time job in the times we live in can be taken for granted.  But reality sure is a booga-bear when you read the news and find that the unemployment rate (5.7 %) is the highest it’s been in 4 years.  Not to mention, for the parents out there who think their kids are fibbing when they say they couldn’t find a job… well-  the unemployment rate for teenager’s, during summer employment,  is 20% which is the highest since 1992.  So don’t be so hard on your kids if they say they can’t find work.   

All I can say people is this; every 20 or so years, history repeats itself because mankind doesn’t really learn from it’s mistakes and honestly, beyond that, it’s just a life cycle.  America and other countries have had times just like these over the years and by the Grace of God, got through it.  If you keep putting one foot in front of the other, pray and believe that things will work out, they ultimately will; maybe not how you planned but that’s where the skill of making lemonade out of lemons comes in handy.

I know this for sure even though sometimes when I’m presented with an obstacle I go through a period of insecurity and indecision.  It’s a cycle.  That’s why (if you’re in the 30 -40 age group, you’ll see clothing trends, dances and (movie remakes) that seem quite familiar to what you wore back in the 80’s.  

Although life is short people, it’s the LONGEST journey you’ll have on this Earth.  Make sure you’re enjoying as much of it as you can.  Dare to be you, take chances and explore it.  Be sensible, accountable and responsible, but whatever you do, enjoy it.  For those of you who are unemployed I pray for you and your families. 

And for those of you who are fearful of what this chapter in American History will bring to your door step, just know that nothing is allowed in your life that if you look hard enough and believe, that you can’t handle or find a way to work through it. 

Continued blessings to all

Psalm 41

Hey Fam.

Yeah, from the lyrics of a soultry singer, Teddy Pendegrass, I titled this post, ‘Think I betta let it go’ from his “LOVE TKO’ song. HA HA!   This has been a crazy week.  While each day was happening it seemed to take forever but by Sunday in hindsight it seemed to fly by.  So as I started getting organized and catching up with friends and fam, I noticed changes within my associations.  The ones that are still with me and the ones that have faded away.  I also noticed the ones that bounce in and out of my life like I’m on ‘hold’ until they decide I’m worth a thought in their mind. 

Maybe it’s not like that for them, but on the receiving end that ain’t cool.  So it reminds me of a sermon that a pastor did a few years ago in my home town.  It was about KNOWING when to let things go.  Things meaning, dreams, people, jobs or whatever you’re clinging too that in your mind should happen or should be BUT AIN’T! 

Bottom line, you really have to EVALUATE stuff in your life at least yearly. Sometimes we hold on to things that we should have let go of days ago, weeks ago, months ago and…sadly YEARS ago.  Then we wonder why it isn’t working out for us the way we hoped or planned. 

So do yourself a favor.  Sit down with a pad and pen.  Write down your goals, desires, personality and character traits.  Matter of fact, include your spiritual beliefs and overall life principles.   I know it feels like homework.  But you’d be surprised about what you learn about yourself and who you ‘hang’ with. 

Then think about the people in your life who contribute to those elements, who enhance them or flow with you.  Now don’t get me wrong.  A person can be your total opposite in everything and contribute to your life greatly but when it’s a constant tug of war or a negative experience, then search your heart, mind and spirit and know what’s right for you.  A friend of mine and I were talking about this earlier today. But it’s HARD to ‘let things’ go. Because you feel like you’ve failed or given up on it but sometimes you’re supposed to LET IT GO!

Think about YOUR definition of a FRIEND and decide are you really surrounded by them.  People come into your life for a season, reason and a lifetime. It’s up to you to learn which!  Childhood dreams are meant to be remembered and insipre you but as you grow sometimes there’s a twist or curve in that dream that may need to be rethought or disgarded all together.  Think about it.  What are some things you need to let go?

have a great week!

kd

I’ve gotten older, some things I’ve learned about me are:

• I’m a planner
• Decisive (on small matters)
• Passionate
• Worker Bee
• Driven
• Love Inspiring Others

Now these may seem like great qualities overall, but believe it or not, they become like kryptonite to certain types of people. And if you’re not careful, your strengths can also become self-sabotagers! For people who are the opposite character types (of me) or have different personalities my strengths can be their weaknesses.

If there’s confusion in communication or self-expression, sometimes these opposites will argue or ‘break up’ alot. Over the next few weeks, I’ll explain the pros & cons (for me) about each of my ’strength’ qualities. By doing so, it has truly helped me learn more about myself. Maybe if you evaluate yourself as part of your goals, then you can refine into a better you!

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