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Okay, I never really thought about this analogy when it comes to dating but I guess this is pretty sound advice even though it’s from a dating page on MSN. It does have some points. In fact, I was just talking with one my sisters about this the other day.
When I first thought about getting a new car back in 1995 it was like NO ONE else in my neck of the woods had the car I wanted. Then when I bought it all of the sudden — everybody and they mama sported not only the same make but also the same model and candy apple red COLOR!
Of course tons of other people HAD the car prior to me but I just didn’t notice it until I bought one. Well this ‘red car’ syndrome, is being compared to the dating realm. One woman in her early 40’s ask this ‘dating expert’, why she can never meet a man in her age group. She indulges that she always meets men that are either younger or older by at least 10 years. The resolution to her query? Maybe it’s her perception about the men she attracts.
UGH, I dislike that ‘resolution’. To me perception is a person’s understanding or resolution of WHY something or somebody is the way they are or why things are happening etc. NOT the fact that it’s happening. For instance. If someone stepped on your foot. The fact is… they STEPPED ON YOUR FOOT. That’s reality, not a perception.
BUT when asked WHY you THINK or feel they stepped on your foot, then your response is your perception. I mean maybe they stepped on your foot by accident b/c it was over crowded, maybe they were being rude or have a painful foot fettish who knows. Anyway… that ‘excuse’ or reason does nerve me b/c the woman is stating a FACT that she attracts younger men by at least 10-20 years. BUT maybe she notices those men more than others because a part of her IS truly attracted to younger men.
Now does that make it perception or does that make a psychological thing or are the 2 intertwined? Or maybe reality isn’t real and it’s actually based on a person’s perception? If so what makes things REAL for everyone?
Now on the dating tip, personally, I have noticed I attract younger men. BUT my perception / reality about that is, I have a baby face, so I look younger therefore I attract younger men. But the fact (reality) is I do attract them more so than any other age group. But that’s the blues of dating pour moi! Lol Anyway, here’s the article!
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